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Unlock the Male Mystery Guys will be guys. And now girls can know what that means! For Young Women Only dives into the mysterious inner-workings of the teenage male mind so that you can begin to understand why guys say and do what they do. Exploring critical topics including respect, insecurity, appearance, physical affection, and the "tough and tender"-ness of guys, this Unlock the Male Mystery Guys will be guys. And now girls can know what that means! For Young Women Only dives into the mysterious inner-workings of the teenage male mind so that you can begin to understand why guys say and do what they do. Exploring critical topics including respect, insecurity, appearance, physical affection, and the "tough and tender"-ness of guys, this book is also packed with "ask the expert" sections, quotes, and fun personal stories from guys in all walks of life. Why is he so visually stimulated? You may wish it weren't so, but that won't make it so. I don't want to put on a front for him to like me. Actually, he wants your genuineness, too! This book will help you grasp how God wired the opposite sex so you can enjoy your relationships with them. Why Are Guys So Weird? Unravel the mystery. A national scientific survey and in-depth personal interviews give you an unprecedented look inside the teenage male mind. Discover how: He'd be perfectly fine if he was loved by few and hated by many...as long as he was respected by all His ego is the size of Africa (but so are his insecurities) He hides his real feelings under a tough exterior He's magnetized by pretty girls-but also wants to find a diamond in the rough He actually does want to marry a virgin He just wants you to be yourself. It's the inside scoop you've been waiting for! You'll come to not only understand him, but also know what he might really be thinking about you. "This is a phenomenal book that I wish I'd had as a teenager!" -Shannon Ethridge, Bestselling author, Every Young Woman's Battle "Girls, this book is a MUST-read!" -Candace Cameron Bure, Actress, speaker Story Behind the Book "My teenage daughter really needs to hear this!" Such was the typical reaction from countless men and women who read Shaunti Feldhahn 's bestselling For Women Only."If forty-year-old women are surprised by the truth about how men think, we realized the value in helping teenagers discover these realities as well," says Shaunti. Teaming with her best friend Lisa Rice, a mother of teen girls and the coauthor of For Women Only Discussion Guide, they launched a major national survey of guys fifteen to twenty. Their surprising findings are revealed here to help girls improve their relationships with the opposite sex, now and into the future.


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Unlock the Male Mystery Guys will be guys. And now girls can know what that means! For Young Women Only dives into the mysterious inner-workings of the teenage male mind so that you can begin to understand why guys say and do what they do. Exploring critical topics including respect, insecurity, appearance, physical affection, and the "tough and tender"-ness of guys, this Unlock the Male Mystery Guys will be guys. And now girls can know what that means! For Young Women Only dives into the mysterious inner-workings of the teenage male mind so that you can begin to understand why guys say and do what they do. Exploring critical topics including respect, insecurity, appearance, physical affection, and the "tough and tender"-ness of guys, this book is also packed with "ask the expert" sections, quotes, and fun personal stories from guys in all walks of life. Why is he so visually stimulated? You may wish it weren't so, but that won't make it so. I don't want to put on a front for him to like me. Actually, he wants your genuineness, too! This book will help you grasp how God wired the opposite sex so you can enjoy your relationships with them. Why Are Guys So Weird? Unravel the mystery. A national scientific survey and in-depth personal interviews give you an unprecedented look inside the teenage male mind. Discover how: He'd be perfectly fine if he was loved by few and hated by many...as long as he was respected by all His ego is the size of Africa (but so are his insecurities) He hides his real feelings under a tough exterior He's magnetized by pretty girls-but also wants to find a diamond in the rough He actually does want to marry a virgin He just wants you to be yourself. It's the inside scoop you've been waiting for! You'll come to not only understand him, but also know what he might really be thinking about you. "This is a phenomenal book that I wish I'd had as a teenager!" -Shannon Ethridge, Bestselling author, Every Young Woman's Battle "Girls, this book is a MUST-read!" -Candace Cameron Bure, Actress, speaker Story Behind the Book "My teenage daughter really needs to hear this!" Such was the typical reaction from countless men and women who read Shaunti Feldhahn 's bestselling For Women Only."If forty-year-old women are surprised by the truth about how men think, we realized the value in helping teenagers discover these realities as well," says Shaunti. Teaming with her best friend Lisa Rice, a mother of teen girls and the coauthor of For Women Only Discussion Guide, they launched a major national survey of guys fifteen to twenty. Their surprising findings are revealed here to help girls improve their relationships with the opposite sex, now and into the future.

30 review for For Young Women Only: What You Need to Know about How Guys Think

  1. 4 out of 5

    Kandise

    188 pages about how to make yourself a blank slate to avoid offending, insulting, or "luring" the young men in your life. Includes requisite chapter on losing weight - because guys can't help not be attracted to you if you're 20 lbs overweight - but of course after endless messaging about how to look, act, dress, talk, and think, ends with the completely contrary instruction to "be yourself." Other messages in this book include that all young men's problems originate with girls; young men are in 188 pages about how to make yourself a blank slate to avoid offending, insulting, or "luring" the young men in your life. Includes requisite chapter on losing weight - because guys can't help not be attracted to you if you're 20 lbs overweight - but of course after endless messaging about how to look, act, dress, talk, and think, ends with the completely contrary instruction to "be yourself." Other messages in this book include that all young men's problems originate with girls; young men are incompetent ciphers who require the love, affection, and guidance of a young woman to be whole; and that young women are primarily mean, self-absorbed creatures who don't understand "the effect" they have on the world around them (ie. if someone "lusts" for you, it's your fault, they can't help themselves). The book avoids discussing the fact that, according to the authors' own survey, 64-82% of young men are complete hypocrites when it comes to pre-marital sex, while promoting the evo-psych view that guys are helpless slaves to testosterone. Possibly the most problematic message of all is that all young men are deserving of unconditional respect at all times, regardless of their behaviour. Combined with the book's declaration that "82% of young men don't feel the ability or responsibility" to stop sexual activity once it starts, there are some pretty overt rape-apology subtexts here. An assault on feminism and a crime against young women.

  2. 5 out of 5

    Shantelle

    My first read of the new year! And was it ever worth it. This is my second time reading For Young Women Only: What You Need to Know About How Guys Think by Shaunti Feldhahn and Lisa Rice. But let me assure you, I was no less surprised, encouraged, amazed, and challenged reading it over. A little saddened and convicted too. I guess the older you get, the more it impacts you; the more you realize and understand what this book is trying to say. So did you know that your seemingly harmless teasin My first read of the new year! And was it ever worth it. This is my second time reading For Young Women Only: What You Need to Know About How Guys Think by Shaunti Feldhahn and Lisa Rice. But let me assure you, I was no less surprised, encouraged, amazed, and challenged reading it over. A little saddened and convicted too. I guess the older you get, the more it impacts you; the more you realize and understand what this book is trying to say. So did you know that your seemingly harmless teasing or constant "check-ups" on a guy can really effect him in a negative way? Or that a man getting angry (feeling disrespected, untrusted) is the equivalent to a woman crying (feeling unloved, not cherished)? Or that your "cute" outfits are creating havoc in the minds of even young men who are trying to do right? It's a pretty well-known fact that men and women are different, and we often have a hard time understanding each other. Well... why don't we try to understand? Stop the selfishness. Get rid of the "poor me" mentality. Quit trash-talking men when we are equally to blame! Yes, if you are in an abusive relationship of any type, then this doesn't apply. But otherwise, we should try to understand the men in our lives. Let's build them up, support them, be their helper, as God created us to. Not just your boyfriend, but your brothers, father, and other guy acquaintances. They're all created and loved by God. We should strive to love the same. So For Young Women Only just has some really ground-breaking advice on how to do this. This book really explores the minds of men; myths about them that aren't quite what we imagined, and other secrets that quite stun us. Like, you can say "I love you" all you want, but if you're sending messages of "I don't respect you"/"I can't trust you", he's not going to be feeling good about himself or your relationship. So yes, read this book if you're looking to be a better girlfriend, sister, daughter, just a more understanding and godly young woman overall. I mean, most of us don't want to be hurting our guy friends and whatnot, so why not figure out what they're thinking? This book can have a feeling of being more directed toward the average, high-school girl... which it is, I believe. So if you're not exactly that girl, some parts of the book will have you feeling not as connected. It was like that for me a bit. Like, I might have thought like that when I was fifteen, but now I'm seeking a godly marriage, not a fun dating relationship that may or may not last forever. However, most of For Young Women Only was very interesting and relevant for me. So look no further to learn important things about modesty, dating, and men's feelings and thoughts. This book may be written by women, but they got all their information from men! It's straightforward and just telling it how it is for men (not: this is right or this is wrong), but at the same time, there is a Christian aspect and sensitivity (nothing graphic or such). I very much appreciated this chance to look inside the minds of men. I truly want to be a support, not a hindrance, to my brothers. So this was extremely helpful. All young ladies, do pick up this book... be surprised and convicted, but must of all, enriched! And as for men, I would encourage you to read something like For Men Only: A Straightforward Guide to the Inner Lives of Women. Let's learn to be a team, not in competition or dragging the other down. Amazingly insightful book.

  3. 5 out of 5

    Heather

    So many damaging messages in this book.

  4. 5 out of 5

    Katelyn

    I thought this book provided a lot of good insights. A lot of people misunderstood it though. When the book said to respect guys all the time I think the author meant "if they guy is respectable the majority of the time then support them" I don't think the author meant "if they guy is a conceited jerk, abuses you, and obviously doesn't know a line...go along with it" Also I think respect has many different meanings. I think she meant "respect his best self". Encourage his better self. If a guy's I thought this book provided a lot of good insights. A lot of people misunderstood it though. When the book said to respect guys all the time I think the author meant "if they guy is respectable the majority of the time then support them" I don't think the author meant "if they guy is a conceited jerk, abuses you, and obviously doesn't know a line...go along with it" Also I think respect has many different meanings. I think she meant "respect his best self". Encourage his better self. If a guy's being cruel or mean of course discourage that! What the author wants is for girls to encourage guys to be their best selves. Also when the author was talking about losing weight she meant "be healthy" you're not changing yourself by eating healthier. Like it or not (even though it can be a pain) you're helping yourself. As regards to girls dressing slutty, the author is saying that men, naturally, have a drive for sex. Though they should control their desires. It's like candy. We all love sugar but we shouldn't pig out. Similar concept. Also we shouldn't encourage the guys to act like that. Just like how we all like candy it makes it a lot harder to say no if you bake cookies and someone waves it under your nose. Lot's of will power to say no. Though I don't think it's right if boys give in, I also do think that girls shouldn't encourage that behavior either (and I'm a girl). A lot of the advice in this book really helped clear up some mysteries I had about guys. I really liked the authors message and loved how she tied everything with God. I loved how a female wrote it but used a million quotes from guys. It made it easier to understand (female to female) but you still get a lot of guy's input. This was a really good book with a really good message. Girls do effect guys and we should encourage them to be their best. Also keep in mind: this was only one side of the picture. She could write a whole other book on girls and how we work. This book was focused on men and how we can help them. Great book, glad I read it!

  5. 4 out of 5

    Karen

    I tried to give this book a chance. I really did. I even made sure to read the ENTIRE book. My takeaway is that, according to this book, boys are gentle souls that need to be protected but not stifled, respected regardless, and made to feel special. Meanwhile, girls? You're responsible for being attractive - but not *TOO* attractive, kind, gentle vapid lambs that cover up and make sure to not let sexual attraction/action go TOO far. That's right. Those gentle tender lamb-bo I tried to give this book a chance. I really did. I even made sure to read the ENTIRE book. My takeaway is that, according to this book, boys are gentle souls that need to be protected but not stifled, respected regardless, and made to feel special. Meanwhile, girls? You're responsible for being attractive - but not *TOO* attractive, kind, gentle vapid lambs that cover up and make sure to not let sexual attraction/action go TOO far. That's right. Those gentle tender lamb-boys can't stop themselves when it comes to sex. It's just how they're wired. They will respect you more if you stop them, and they don't love you anyway. Sex is apparently a biological response to all of them, and not an expression of love. You, on the other hand, are meant to cover up (especially the fatties), but still 'speak to his heart' and know what he needs. If you're overweight, well, check yourself and lose some weight. Just don't get an eating disorder, cuz boys don't like sticks, either. If you CAN'T lose the weight, don't worry. You'll solidly hit the friend zone with the guys. Besides, God loves EVERYONE. Even the fat chicks. (He does, however, want you to be your best self. Seriously. Go on a diet.) If I had read this as a teenager, I would have assumed that it was confirmation of every horrible thing that I already had floating around in my head. If I bothered to remain in the church, I would have changed denominations and become a nun. If my daughter chooses to read this, it will be allowed only with the caveat that we discuss the themes in depth.

  6. 4 out of 5

    Sophia

    I got some good inside scoop from this book. I also got a lesson on how to pray to God for forgiveness when my mini skirt caused those poor boys to think dirty dirty thoughts. Great concept, but the slut-shaming, moral policing, fundamentalist message of the authors left me unable to stomach this advice, let alone take it seriously. But if you're a Christian girl looking for guy advice/purity polishing, then you've found your holy grail.

  7. 5 out of 5

    Alyssa

    this book was the best info on guys book you could ever get you hands on! how do they really feel on the in side? what do they think about? how can i be a better friend to my guy friend? why are they sooooo different? and many more questions, like these, get answered! this is a great book and every girl should read it! (just keep it away from the boys.jk lol) i just finished reading it again!!!! loved it!

  8. 4 out of 5

    Angela Blount

    A quick, plainly written yet thought-provoking read. I actually read this one in part as research for a YA book I've been writing (needing more insight into the teen male brain and finding little help in my husband's vague recollections), and in part to gauge it's suitability for my 14 and 17-year-old goddaughters. Ultimately, I found it quite useful in both respects. Like the adult versions (For Women Only & For Men Only) that came before it, this book is based around a series of surveys(For A quick, plainly written yet thought-provoking read. I actually read this one in part as research for a YA book I've been writing (needing more insight into the teen male brain and finding little help in my husband's vague recollections), and in part to gauge it's suitability for my 14 and 17-year-old goddaughters. Ultimately, I found it quite useful in both respects. Like the adult versions (For Women Only & For Men Only) that came before it, this book is based around a series of surveys conducted in an effort to gain honest opinions and insight from a wide range of young men (U.S residents ages 15 through 20)—with the assurance of their anonymity being protected. While it is written from the standpoint of a Christian worldview (Inspirational publisher Multnomah being a dead giveaway) the survey subjects represent from both religious and non-religious backgrounds. Just as with For Women Only, the authors are forthcoming about the generalized nature of their findings. They readily point out that, while a significant majority of males seem to perceive certain concepts a specific way and/or have a particular sensory sensitivity/weakness, that this doesn't mean it applies to ALL young males. This reader personally found it interesting that, while the answers closely mirrored those in the adult version, younger males didn't seem to answer quite as resolutely (on average) as adult males. For example: Close to 2/3rds of teen males prefer the idea of being “alone and unloved” to “inadequate and disrespected”--while in For Women Only the results were right at 3/4ths of men surveyed who shared that same perceptual leaning. Going into this I would have thought that age would temper certain characteristics and insecurities, but instead it seems to lend stronger definition to them. Side Note: Halfway through chapter 4 I was struck by the "Mean Girls" section. I have to confess, I didn't think teen guys generally paid enough attention to realize how awful girls sometimes treat each other--let alone that they'd see this muddled backstabbing/co-dependent/manipulative dynamic as a reason for being paranoid over trusting girls with anything personal. (Also, the Mean Girls movie references are GOLD.) Evidently, I wasn't giving them enough credit. Despite their professed faith I could respect that the authors don't skirt around the more crass or shallow answers, answers that surprised them, or topics that are controversial enough to cause them backlash. I suspect they caught the most flak for the section regarding how strongly visual a majority of men seem to be geared. They weren't out to judge or condemn how differently many males think and process things from their female counterparts—only to forge a sense of empathy and understanding in the majority of females who can't necessarily relate to the difference in brain wiring. (As one of the minority females who is more “visual” and sensually triggered by imagery, I could already sympathize. But I've known an overwhelming number of females who rush to belittling judgment over how easily men can get hung up on things like scantily clad women or outright pornography.) The section on physical attraction and appearance was certainly the most risky. (It's a proverbial catch-22 in a society plagued by both rampant mental illness AND epidemic childhood obesity rates.) The fact that one of the authors is a recovered bulimic—whose issues were inadvertently but admittedly exacerbated by the perfectionist image pressures of a Christian University—lent a lot of credence to topic. But even they confess to nearly leaving out the subject that could potentially trigger those with active, untreated eating disorders—or be taken wrong by those who are already on the edge. My primary complaint here would be that, while the authors made a point of directing those who might have unhealthy self-image issues to seek help from a trusted adult, they didn't include possible online or telephone contacts for them to pursue. I would have loved to see an even broader survey base used beyond the 400+ subjects...and the middle half of the book had the grating habit of overusing the word “hot” as a descriptor. But overall this was a worthwhile read, and one which I will happily hand off to my goddaughters as a hopeful discussion-starter. Favorite takeaway quotes: *"Don't hold back your potential for another person. You have to be effective by yourself first." * “True love forces you to see your own selfishness--and get past it. That's where the happiness lies.”

  9. 4 out of 5

    Megan Smith

    I think this book has some really great insight into the male mind. Yes, it is written by a woman, but there are lots of surveys and quotes from real guys from older teens to young twenties. There were some lightbulb moments for me reading For Young Women Only as what she said rang true with what I'd seen. I will say that it is a bit categorical at times, putting guys into boxes: "All guys ___" etc. But overall I recommend this book to older teens and girls in their twenties and thirties that wa I think this book has some really great insight into the male mind. Yes, it is written by a woman, but there are lots of surveys and quotes from real guys from older teens to young twenties. There were some lightbulb moments for me reading For Young Women Only as what she said rang true with what I'd seen. I will say that it is a bit categorical at times, putting guys into boxes: "All guys ___" etc. But overall I recommend this book to older teens and girls in their twenties and thirties that want to get some insight on the way guys think. The insight is good and the perspective is great. It is important that we approach this with prayer and understand that guys don't always fit into the mold.

  10. 4 out of 5

    Ruth E. R.

    Best current book that I've read so far about honoring the differences between men and women. I think it would be especially helpful for young women who experienced sexual abuse, and would tend to think most unrealistically about males and struggle to have healthy relationships with them. And in our current culture, so much of what young girls are exposed to, in sex education and elsewhere, is a form of sexual abuse towards them. We are in a world filled with men and women so it's important to b Best current book that I've read so far about honoring the differences between men and women. I think it would be especially helpful for young women who experienced sexual abuse, and would tend to think most unrealistically about males and struggle to have healthy relationships with them. And in our current culture, so much of what young girls are exposed to, in sex education and elsewhere, is a form of sexual abuse towards them. We are in a world filled with men and women so it's important to be able to communicate with each other and also to maintain healthy boundaries. This book can be a wonderful tool.

  11. 5 out of 5

    Arielle

    This book was just "okay." Nothing really jumped out about it. A lot of stereotypes and generalizing which I can't stand. And hello, I'm tired of all these books that are ok with boys being jerks and the girls having to stand by and keep our mouths shut in order not to hurt their ego. Guys aren't as sensitive as this book implies. Believe me. If they are, that is their problem! Yes,watch what you say and be respectful. But girls should never feel like they need to be doormats. This book portrays This book was just "okay." Nothing really jumped out about it. A lot of stereotypes and generalizing which I can't stand. And hello, I'm tired of all these books that are ok with boys being jerks and the girls having to stand by and keep our mouths shut in order not to hurt their ego. Guys aren't as sensitive as this book implies. Believe me. If they are, that is their problem! Yes,watch what you say and be respectful. But girls should never feel like they need to be doormats. This book portrays guy as very selfish and that we need to basically worship at their feet. Like I said, it is an okay book, but a lot of the info is kind of silly and unrealistic.

  12. 5 out of 5

    Kelsey Carnes

    It wasn't exactly a groundbreaking book for me, but I did get a few good points out of it. I would definitely recommend it to any young woman who is struggling to understand how to behave toward the men in her life in a godly, uplifting way. What I appreciate about this particular book is that it's not geared specifically to ladies in romantic relationships. The advice in here can be applied to relationships of ANY kind with people of the opposite gender.

  13. 4 out of 5

    Kerri

    This book was just...lame.

  14. 5 out of 5

    Veronica

    Rating: 1.5 stars

  15. 4 out of 5

    Syd Carp

    Really good and informative. Funny at times too. Recommended ages 14 & up.

  16. 4 out of 5

    Morgan

    This was a GREAT book! Every young woman should read it. I knew a lot of what was brought up, but there were also many other things that really blew my mind. Too many young women these days dress immodestly without really knowing what they are doing to the men, young and old, around them. This book gets two thumbs up from me! Finally something from the guys themselves! Thanks!

  17. 5 out of 5

    Anna

    This book provided some great insight into the male mind and exposed some unexpected truths. Every young woman should read this book so she knows how to deal with relationships, romantically and platonically, with the men in her life.

  18. 4 out of 5

    Katie Simon

    Great perspective! This book helps decipher the confusing world of men. It also addresses how the actions of women can affect men. Easy read.

  19. 4 out of 5

    Catera

    Is was very interesting and insightful and I never knew all the things that go on in the male brain

  20. 5 out of 5

    Jazmene

    Honestly, I can't remember what the book was about because I read it so long ago.

  21. 5 out of 5

    Jennifer Wardrip

    Reviewed by Taylor Rector for TeensReadToo.com The authors of FOR YOUNG WOMEN ONLY, Shaunti Feldhahn and Lisa A. Rice, have done an amazing job! They took surveys of guys ages fifteen to twenty, with questions about dating, relationships, and sex -- and the book is what the guys had to say. All of the survey answers are in it, as well as quotes from the boys when they met in groups to talk. If you are a teen girl wondering what guys are thinking about then this is the book for you. (I Reviewed by Taylor Rector for TeensReadToo.com The authors of FOR YOUNG WOMEN ONLY, Shaunti Feldhahn and Lisa A. Rice, have done an amazing job! They took surveys of guys ages fifteen to twenty, with questions about dating, relationships, and sex -- and the book is what the guys had to say. All of the survey answers are in it, as well as quotes from the boys when they met in groups to talk. If you are a teen girl wondering what guys are thinking about then this is the book for you. (I think every woman in America wants to understand the complicated minds of guys.) There are many subjects covered, including how men hide their feelings under a tough exterior and how a guy wants to find a diamond in the rough, not someone who comes off as perfect. I really enjoyed this book because not only is it insightful but it's also kind of funny. There are things that I will now do differently around guys because of reading this book. I only wish that guys could just tell girls what they were thinking -- but of course things have to be difficult!

  22. 4 out of 5

    Rachel

    Okay. Not nearly as good as the adult versions. This book assumes that teenagers will be involved in a series of casual dating relationships which we are discouraging our students at church to enter into. Plus chapter 7 assumes the teenagers are having sex with multiple partners. The girls I listened with were interested in the chapter on visual cues, and how they dress affects teenage boys. It does not go enough to the Biblical view on dating and sex before marriage, other than to explain that Okay. Not nearly as good as the adult versions. This book assumes that teenagers will be involved in a series of casual dating relationships which we are discouraging our students at church to enter into. Plus chapter 7 assumes the teenagers are having sex with multiple partners. The girls I listened with were interested in the chapter on visual cues, and how they dress affects teenage boys. It does not go enough to the Biblical view on dating and sex before marriage, other than to explain that boys prefer to marry virgins. A big chunk on losing weight and boys not wanting overweight girls, unless they start to look after themselves and like themselves. Not a bad message, but seemed a disproportionate amount of time on this. Interesting, useful, but with big gaps.

  23. 4 out of 5

    Jayd B

    I first read parts of the book in my youth group at church. I really liked it so I ended up buying it. 3 of my friends also ended up getting the book also. We have all read it and like to have discutions about it. The author interviewd thousands of guy from all over. They were all diffrent nationalities and religons. In this book the guys are around 15 and 21 years old. It talks about the way guys think and feel about certain situation. I have heard from seveal guys that what it says is true. I I first read parts of the book in my youth group at church. I really liked it so I ended up buying it. 3 of my friends also ended up getting the book also. We have all read it and like to have discutions about it. The author interviewd thousands of guy from all over. They were all diffrent nationalities and religons. In this book the guys are around 15 and 21 years old. It talks about the way guys think and feel about certain situation. I have heard from seveal guys that what it says is true. I have also heard what they say isn't as true from several guys. This is a great book. I not only teaches you about guys, but how you can understand how they think and feel.

  24. 4 out of 5

    E

    #1 thing I learned from this book; Guys will die for respect like we girls will die for love. Because of this book I have promised Jesus that I will thoughtfully try to uplift men and boys by respecting them - whether they deserve it or not. To men, respect is love. They would rather be hated and yet respected than loved and not measuring up. This book opened my eyes on the 'love language' of men more than any book before it. I apologize to all the males out there who received any 'dis'respect f #1 thing I learned from this book; Guys will die for respect like we girls will die for love. Because of this book I have promised Jesus that I will thoughtfully try to uplift men and boys by respecting them - whether they deserve it or not. To men, respect is love. They would rather be hated and yet respected than loved and not measuring up. This book opened my eyes on the 'love language' of men more than any book before it. I apologize to all the males out there who received any 'dis'respect from me in the past! Thanks you Shaunti and Lisa!

  25. 4 out of 5

    Melodie Roschman

    It's got the usual modesty, sexual temptation, and prioritization of pleasing men stuff that I expect from the genre, but this book is a special kind of toxic. The first chapter explicitly states that if your husband or boyfriend is angry at you, you have crossed a line and disrespected him and that is your fault. The book preaches unconditional respect for men regardless of whether they deserve it. Messages like this condone and enable abuse, and can encourage women to stay in incredibly toxic It's got the usual modesty, sexual temptation, and prioritization of pleasing men stuff that I expect from the genre, but this book is a special kind of toxic. The first chapter explicitly states that if your husband or boyfriend is angry at you, you have crossed a line and disrespected him and that is your fault. The book preaches unconditional respect for men regardless of whether they deserve it. Messages like this condone and enable abuse, and can encourage women to stay in incredibly toxic and violent relationships.

  26. 5 out of 5

    Trevor

    See my review of For Young Men Only: A Guy's Guide to the Alien Gender. This book was better written but I found it similarly troubling. There was one chapter in particular on physical attraction that I thought could actually be harmful to the teenage girls reading it.

  27. 4 out of 5

    Lori Lynn Tucker

    I really loved this book! A lot of the information wasn't necessarily new to me, but I've read a lot of books like this, so I kinda expected that. At the same time, the presentation was fresh and up-to-date. The authors also did A LOT of research in prepartion for this book. Even though some of the points may not have been new to me personally, some of the info expounded on each point was an eye opener. On top of having some really great lessons and content, this book was fun and easy to read! I I really loved this book! A lot of the information wasn't necessarily new to me, but I've read a lot of books like this, so I kinda expected that. At the same time, the presentation was fresh and up-to-date. The authors also did A LOT of research in prepartion for this book. Even though some of the points may not have been new to me personally, some of the info expounded on each point was an eye opener. On top of having some really great lessons and content, this book was fun and easy to read! I think every girl should read this book ASAP!

  28. 4 out of 5

    Nicole Barnet

    I thought this book was really good and very insightful. I have only one complaint about it and that is I thought the author repeated herself quite a bit. Just a little note: I read the other one For Women only and thought that one would be rather different it was a lot of the same information. There was a little difference only because the other one was geared towards engaged and married couples.

  29. 4 out of 5

    Rebekah

    Not the best book I have ever read. I only picked this one up because I am taking a class in college and needed a relationship book to write a paper on. There were a few interesting things about it but for the most part it just made guys look much weaker than they really are and women need to change everything about them for the guy. I can see why some girls would enjoy it but it just wasn't for me.

  30. 5 out of 5

    Daphne Lin

    This book has opened my eyes and enlightened me about how guys think. I have always been puzzled over guys being so visually stimulated. Just like what the book has said, "You may wish it weren't so, but that won't 'make' it so." What is lacking is emphasis on God and the power of His word. You see, the book does a great job in telling girls how guys ARE, but not how God wants guys to BE. That's the reason why I give it a 4 stars.

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